Ever feel like things just don’t seem to go like they’re supposed to? Like maybe it seems like the more you hold onto something, the easier it seems to slip away? Or the more you try for something, the harder it seems to achieve or obtain? It’s almost like the way we think is misaligned with the way life actually operates. God said that our thoughts are not His thoughts and our ways are not His ways. It seems like He created the universe to work a certain way, and for some reason our internal logic and instincts are not aligned with the way He created things to work.

Think about times when you’ve been in a job or tried a start a business selling something. Especially if your income has anything to do with commissions for the amount you sell. Sometimes it may seem like you try so hard to close that sale. You push and push, you address every objection, yet it just seems like the more you talk, the more your clients try to get away from you and the sales slip through your grip. Then one day you suddenly realize that you are tired of trying so hard to get those sales. You’ve burned yourself out trying to get those commission checks and so you relax and stop caring whether people actually buy from you or not, and you just answer questions without the pressure of needing that sale to close. All of a sudden you may start noticing your sales start to go up. What happened? You tried so hard before and the more effort you put into your goal, the further it seemed to push your goal away. Then, when you suddenly realize that you don’t need your original goal, it almost seemed to bring it to you like a magnet!

The same can be true of relationships. Ever have that someone that you wanted to like you so badly, so you go through everything you can think of to try to impress them, to try to be around them, to try to get them to like you, but it seems like they just keep trying to get away from you. Or perhaps you’ve been on the receiving end of someone like that. Why do you think that doesn’t work? On the flip side, the attraction somehow seems to build between people who are content with or without the other person liking them. They don’t feel the need to go out of their way to impress someone and they don’t hound them for time together. They just treat each other normally and go about their regular lives as if they are just friends. However, over time, that friendship can grow into more, but it is not because it was forced, it is because it was a relaxed enough relationship to allow the attraction to grow, and even if it didn’t, both people would still be happy with their friendship.

A writer named Jeff Goins wrote a blog post called, “The Abundance of Scarcity and the Scarcity of Abundance.” He touched on these concepts about how the universe (God in my belief) seems to reward those who are grateful and content with what they already have and take away from those who are constantly needy for more. This shed new light on a bible verse that he brought up which I had never seen from this perspective, but it makes so much sense to me now.

Matthew 13:12 (NASB)

12For whoever has, to him more shall be given, and he will have an abundance; but whoever does not have, even what he has shall be taken away from him.

At first glance, this idea doesn’t seem at all fair. But think about the way life inherently works beyond our control. It’s just the concepts we’ve been discussing. The tighter your grip, the more the sand or water slips through your fingers. The harder you pursue someone or something, the more it seems to flee from you. After considering these things, the way God seems to have created the universe to work is that those who are never content with what they have, who are always wanting more, will never be satisfied. Their appetites will always keep growing beyond what they obtain or achieve, and they will never be content or happy. Those who can appreciate what they have, who have a heart of gratitude and are content to use what is already available to them to their advantage, to them greater and greater rewards and opportunities seem to cling like magnets. Some people call it the Law of Attraction, others just give credit to the universe (which I think is silly since it has no consciousness), but for me, this is simply the system created by God and in order to benefit from the way He designed things to work, we need to let go of our intense desires for more and learn to appreciate what we already have. He rewards gratitude and contentment.

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2 thoughts on “Misalignment

  1. I really have found your last sentence to be true. Paul says “in ALL things, give thanks.” It’s hard to be grateful and content, especially when everything seems to be going badly. But that is when it helps to realize that good or evil is being used by God to achieve His end in your life. Very inspiring post.